I’m not a big fan of the term ‘being in a victim role’, and yet it does say something that I find precious: the movement from powerlessness into choice (power).I…
I often hear participants say: “Yes, it is easy to do NVC with NVC people during the workshop… but life is not like that!”.I always feel a certain sadness when I…
When the psychologist Carl Jung was about 50 or 60 years old (I don’t remember exactly), suddenly he felt like playing with sand. He didn’t know why. He just felt…
What is going on between people who love each other? Partners, parent/children, friends… The love is so clear and yet the mess is so big…
Here is a text Bonno wrote about his travel into NVC in sex: NVC in Lovemaking:First of all to acknowledge that, at least in my life, I experience sex as…
Lately, I became fascinated with, and watched many documentaries about prisons and interviews with people who did atrocious actions (such as killing)...
I see so much polarization and separation happening when it comes to difference in opinion regarding Covid measures. I mediate family members, close friends and life partners that are breaking up…
Here is a story from one of our connecting2life trainer, Marije Roos: Jealousy, such a painful feeling, often is not considered to be very cool…
The costs of 'should': ‘Should', such a little word, yet as I see it it is the center cause of suffering: 1) ‘Should’ creates resistance: Whether it's a ‘should’ towards…
So often we wish to change people: - That our partner would care more for the cleanliness in the house - That our children would stop speaking so disrespectfully...
Here is a break up story of 2 of the Connecting2life trainers: Oriane Boyer and Bonno Lange, who had 6 years of intimate relationship that changed 1.5 years ago. Here they…
Did it ever happen to you that you got hurt? Or that someone got hurt by you…? If you want to be close to people, hurt will surely happen! The key for…
NVC is the most powerful tool I found so far to offer me profound life changing shifts in the views I have on: myself, others and life itself.Here are 2 stories- little ‘change in…
It is with expanding joy that I announce that our new website is online !!!!Below is a story- a precious unexpected gift I received while working with my web Developer/Designer. The…
I’m in a slow digestion process of the change I/we are facing, and I am imagining I am not the only one. It is far from anything I ever experienced...
This time is a grieving story from Nadine that comes directly from a painful experience she experienced the last few weeks: The importance of grieving: Today I want to share my heart…
When I say to people at the very beginning of a workshop that I am damn scared/nervous/insecure, they are often surprised (and even suspicious-“Yoram, are you acting or is it real???”). Why am…
This time is a story by connecting2life trainer Oriane Boyer about a dialogue she had with her toddler niece. Conflict with my 1.5 years old niece, by Oriane Boyer: THE…
Every now and then I hear people say: “NVC only works with NVC people“. I always feel sad when I hear this, as this is surely not what I am…
Here is a tough conflict: In my teaching, I often share the key principle: Need ≠ Strategy, which is a key in how to connect in conflict.In September a conflict that was hidden between…
As Obama once said: "Empathy is the power that will change the world". Empathy has the power to transform any situation- from million seemingly small day to day conflicts and misunderstandings...
Did you ever heard yourself or your partner saying: “I feel pressured”? Well if so, I believe this story is for you- especially as ‘pressure’, as I see it, is the…
Here below I would like to share with you a story (that I find amazing), that was told to me few weeks ago by a participant in my course. For…
For the period of a month, there is a light depression in me.Depression is one of my favorite feelings. As Marshall used to say: “Depression is when you don’t know what…
Until a few years ago, each time I heard someone saying to someone else: “I want you to be happy”, I wanted to vomit, because I didn’t trust it was honest.…
Here is a story about something that happened to me in the desert of Israel 2 days ago: Story: I have a new friend. Very new- I met her 2 weeks…
Has it ever happen to you to say/think: “I need to be alone“?What does it really mean- “I need to be alone?”Though I love being alone, I want to be clear: “To be…
Here is a story from Marshall Rosenberg that inspires me over and over again regarding how to prioritize self-care. Story from Marshall: Many of us live under much pressure: kids, work, loan,…
I find it challenging to find the balance in sex where both partners feel satisfied on the one hand and no pressure on the other.Here is a story how NVC…
A colleague trainer of mine says: “we are living in a culture of oppression- the oppression of children”. When I see how many times children hear the sentence: “No (you…
So what is it that made me stay alive: In 2008 I wanted to die. Luckily, I went then to a 9 days NVC training.One of the trainers (Marianne Gothlin) who heard me…
A while ago, I heard a teacher of mine say: “I never repeat the same conflict twice”.I was amazed, because in my close relationships, I see myself repeating the same conflicts…
I heard Marshall Rosenberg often expressing concerns when people were being diagnosed with mental illnesses. He basically said- diagnosing people...
One of my favorite questions to ask people is: “Can you tell me- at this very moment, what is it that you are afraid to share with me? What is it…
I am back in the Netherlands after teaching 10 days NVC to a large group of 70 Israelis, Palestinians and Internationals...
I’ve been invited to give a TED talk in March. Excited, I asked myself- what will be the main message of my speech? It didn’t take me more than a day to get clear on…
Marshall Rosenberg doesn't like to say 'children', he prefers saying 'small people' to remind himself that, in essence, children are no different than adults (big people)...
Each time I’m in Israel, I have a fight with my Mom. A fight over opinions: She thinks it is so important to be Jewish. And I think that to…
My girlfriend’s roommate has a new cat. A 12 years old cat that was belonging to a lady who moved to a nursing home. The cat needed a new home…
I took on a new discipline for myself- More often than I like, I do not fully understand what people say to me (ever happened to you?), especially when they…
A week ago, in an early Saturday morning, I came to my loved one with the most inspiring idea- “Shall we stay in bed until 12:00 with doing NOTHING?” She…
This summer was particularly nourishing to me. Nourishing, not in the regular sense of the word: This summer was for me a summer of insecurity...
I just finished teaching a 9 days retreat in Israel/Palestine- for 60 Israelis, Palestinians and Internationals. From the many stories and situations I was taking part in...
Few weeks ago, A Polish colleague of mine, while sitting together in her office, she asked me- “Yoram, I would like to teach together with you, shall we organize a…
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