Working as a mediator, I see it over and over again that the number one killer of relationships is ‘demand’, when 1 is not open to hearing a NO. I see it between partners, lovers, parents and children, friends, and family.
I often see people falling in love, having shiny excited eyes in the first three months: Their new partner is a gift to their life. Yet, after a few months, I noticed that some ‘gray-ness’ is replacing the shininess in the eyes… Demand is often sitting hidden at the depth of this dynamic, as it touches a core essence:
When my NO is not received, deeply, it means: I can’t be fully me with you. if I can’t be fully me, then there is no one here to love you.
In this weekend, we might touch up on the following themes:
❀ How to be truly open to receiving a NO?
What really is the difference between a request and a demand, and how to embody and manifested this clarity also in challenging situations with the people we love the most?
❀ How to ‘Mourn my favorite strategy’? And what ‘Mourning’ really means…?
❀ How to deal with my own painful stories (‘rejection stories’ and ‘desperation stories)? How to connect with and live in ‘reality as reality is’, as different to living in ’stories’? How to meet each other in reality?
❀ How to deal with uncomfortable emotions such as: Anger, frustration and hurt?
❀ Why moving to ‘Request energy’ is one of the most precious keys in Intimate relationships (or in other words: how to create the atmosphere where you can be YOU when you are with me, and I can be ME when I am with you)
❀ How to navigate a dialogue (and how to stay uncompromisingly ME) when people are demanding from me? how to ‘make my baby need safe’ so that I don’t need to ever betray myself?
❀ etc. etc.
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (PhD Marshall Rosenberg) is a practical communication tool that radically transforms your relationship with yourself and others. NVC cultivates assertive honesty mixed with a deep quality of Empathy. NVC transforms conflicts into love and clarity.
NVC takes you from your meditation cushion into real life – it helps you live your deep values in relationships and millions of day-to-day life situations. NVC deeply transforms your communication with yourself toward a quality of profound compassion.
You will be invited to work on examples from your own life in an interactive and safe learning environment. We will practice Nonviolent Communication through demonstrations, role-play and exercises in order to integrate NVC values and language more into our daily lives.
The way we teach is: 30% Theory and 70% of Practice/Demonstration/Learning from LIVE situations that are happening in the here and now. Our focus is very much on the Embodied aspect of ‘Nonviolent Communication’, so be ready to dive.
When / Where
11-12 November 2023
STOA, Şirince-Selçuk-İzmir-Türkiye, https://stoasirince.org/en/
Address: Sirince Mahallesi, Kayserkaya Sokak No:20, Selcuk, Izmir, 35290, Turkey
10:00-18:00 with a lunch break of 1.5 hours at around 13:30-15:00
For more information:
Ozgen Saatcilar: firstname.lastname@example.org
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