→ To the website in Japanese: Link
When feelings are moving in us (such as boredom, irritations, annoyance…), we often feel stuck between two questions:
❀ Shall I be honest (and endanger the connection)?
❀ shall I choose silence (and disappear from the connection)?
It is possible to speak a difficult truth and stay in connection with yourself and another!
→ Link to the website in Japanese: Link
The Dilemma of Honesty
So often in situations with people I find myself thinking “Should I say it, or should I not?”. Should I be honest or not? This dilemma represents a core challenge – how can I be fully me with people? It seems that if I share fully who I am, I will have tons of conflicts and pain. And if I hide parts of myself, I will not really be there.
Shall I endanger the connection or shall I disappear from the connection? Neither!
So how can we be fully and radically honest, while caring for the relationships we have?
This was the main question that brought me to Nonviolent Communication (NVC). NVC showed me clear and practical ways to navigate this core dilemma in millions of situations we face day to day.
During this weekend, we will practice
❀ How to be fully honest in a way that creates connection, instead of distance. How to connect with my own authenticity, while being with others
❀ How to initiate a ‘speaking the unspoken’ conversation, and navigate a challenging, scary, honest dialogue
❀ Honesty in ‘Intimate Relationships’: How to deal with the hurt that happens? What are the costs when we are not fully honest? How to be honest in Sex?
❀ How to ask for what I want: How to ‘play big’, instead of ‘playing small’
❀ How to enjoy conflicts (instead of doing everything I can to avoid them)
❀ How to hear the true intention (honesty) of the other person, no matter how they express it
❀ How to move away from ‘who is right/wrong’ into ‘being fully ourselves and enjoy our differences’
❀ How to bring life back into boring and disconnected conversations. How to make relationship meaningful to us
❀ How to act out of our own spirituality/integrity and freedom, and move away from what Marshall Rosenberg called: “living in a society of nice dead polite people.”
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) (Phd. Marshall Rosenberg) is a practical communication tool that radically transforms your relationship with yourself and others. NVC cultivates assertive honesty mixed with a deep quality of Empathy.
NVC transforms conflicts into love and clarity.
In an interactive and safe learning environment, you will be invited to work on examples from your own life. We will practice Nonviolent Communication through demonstrations, role-playing and exercises in order to integrate the NVC values and language more in our own daily lives.
When / Where
22-25 July 2021, Online
Community Time (Orientation, self-introduction, etc.) 13:00- 15:30 Amsterdam time zone (CEST) // 20:00-22:30 Japan Standard Time (JST)
23 & 24/07
Sessions 08:30-11:00 (CEST) // 15:30-18:00 (JST)
Meal break 11:00-13:00 (CEST) // 18:00-20:00 (JST)
Session 13:00-15:30 (CEST) // 20:00-22:30 (JST)
Last Day (Celebration & Morning, Integration, Closing)
8:30-11:00 (CEST) // 15:30-18:00 (JST)
English with a consecutive translation to Japanese
Desired amount of experience
Minimum of 30 hours previous experience with NVC, or watching 1 of my youtube videos: Intro to NVC or my TED talk.
Choice between ￥80.000 ~ ￥89,000 (€618~688)
→ The choice of fees depends on your income and free will. The idea behind a sliding scale is that we all have different current financial situations, and we like to be flexible so that your financial contribution fits your financial situation as well as your personal wish to support us.
→ Invoices are Vrijgesteld (VAT free).
How to book your place:
To book your place, follow the steps below. If you have any questions please contact Sako at: firstname.lastname@example.org
1. Read the Terms & Conditions (Many of us never read ‘Terms & Conditions’… and, we would recommend you to read this one to be sure we’re together and on the same page).
2. Fill in the form below.
3. Send us the non-refundable prepayment of ￥ 15,000/ €100 (When making the transfer please mention your full name and the course name to help us easily identify you).
Account name: connecting2life
→ If your bank is outside the European union, please contact us to see if there may be a less expensive way to make your transfer.
Regarding the remainder: We ask that you pay the remainder of the course fees within a week of finishing the course. We suggest you pay at the end because we like people to know what they’re paying for. We do this because we wish for your payment to be more connected to gratitude rather than to a sense of duty. If you prefer to pay earlier this is also welcome.
‘The regret period’: If you change your mind within 14 days after sending the prepayment, and before the course has actually begun, we will fully refund your prepayment.